I’m sure your home is often as busy and chaotic as ours. As a wife, there are so many things I try to do to bless my husband – laundry, running errands, cooking favorite meals, spending time talking together. These are all good things, but after 15 years of marriage, I have come to realize the one thing that is the best thing I can do to bless my husband.
It may seem simple to you. It might not even seem like a very big deal, but sister, it really is!
The best thing I can do to bless my husband is to pray.
We’ve been married for over 15 years, and those years have not been free of struggle. Some years it was finances, other years it was the stress of moving, and there were the first few years of parenting a child with special needs.
All of those affected my husband (and me) very deeply.
Being in the trenches with him, I wasn’t always quite sure how to help. God kept bringing me back to just one word, though: pray.
Here is what I learned, all over again…
– PRAY FOR HIM –
Many times each day, God would tug at my heart to pray for my husband.
Sometimes it would be for work situations, other times it would be for areas of his life where I knew he was struggling. Sometimes God prompted me to pray for his role as a husband and father.
I tried to be purposeful in my times of prayer for my husband. I would ask him what needs I could pray for. I would inquire about his work schedule and any meetings he would have.
I tried to be sure to let him know that I was praying for him. On occasion, it would be by way of a note in his lunchbox, other times a text message or an email. When he returned home in the evenings, I tried to be intentional in letting him know I prayed for him that day.
It wasn’t always easy, but the habit of praying for him grew into such a special love for him. I had such precious conversations with my heavenly Father about my very best friend and God used that to grow roots of love that I would need in years to come.
– PRAY WITH HIM –
We have always prayed together as a couple. We’ve prayed at meals, before we go to sleep, and often at other times as we had need. I wouldn’t say, though, that praying together is something that has been the strongest part of our marriage.
When you pray with a person, there is a level of intimacy that you share – whether with a friend, a loved one, or a spouse. You are coming together to ask of the Father, and He promises to meet you.
For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.
Matthew 18:20, NIV
Our marriage has gone through another season of struggles recently, and praying together has been very difficult for me. God kept nudging me to pray with my husband. Those roots of love that grow as I pray for my husband are the ones that hold strong in helping me pray with my husband.
When I try to encourage my husband and bless him with actions in my own strength, some good things do happen. He certainly appreciates clean clothes, a warm meal, thoughtful words.
But when I pray for my husband, I’m calling on God’s power to speak into my husband’s life, to encourage him, to minister to him in ways that I am not able to. I’m asking God to step in and be the friend, the encourager, the counselor that I cannot do in my human strength.
Have you prayed for your husband today? Can I challenge you to pray with your husband today? Ask what specific requests he may have, inquire about needs related to his job. Let him know you’ll be praying for him, but then take a moment to pray with him. I promise it will be a blessing to you both!
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