There’s a special basket it my house – never empty, always full. Every once in a while I dig in and give it my best in an attempt to empty the basket. Today was that day – the day I worked through the “lonely sock basket” to check if there were any matches for the socks in the basket. As I compared the socks, I considered how one sock is good, but you really need two to make them worthwhile. It’s the same with marriage – each person has their own good traits, but we’re better together.
Maybe this analogy fits so perfectly for me because in the world of matched pairs, I was almost the lonely sock. My marriage hit some big problems about 18 months ago – the kind of problems that you never imagine will happen to you. The rug was pulled out from under me and every part of my life came crashing down. As my marriage begins to heal and be repaired, I can truly appreciate the idea of ‘better together’.
Here are 4 ways that I feel my marriage is better together!
When we pray together with someone, there is always a level of intimacy that is present. You share your heart and your needs, they share the requests they have. While it is special to pray with friends, there is a deep yearning to pray with my husband. There is something so special about the one I love most approaching the Lord on my behalf. As he carries our burdens to the Father, we are drawn together in our love for each other.
It’s nice to be able to discuss what happened in my day, and to be able to hear about what happened in his day. I appreciate a listening ear when I share, and I love being able to listen as he shares his day with me. It’s those quiet moments after the kids are in bed when he and I can steal just a few moments to talk.
Going a little beyond communication, I am thankful for his support. When I am struggling through something, my husband is the first person I want to talk to. I want to hear his wisdom for the situation, and when necessary, his advice for how I should handle the issue at hand. When I am feeling discouraged or down-trodden, I rely on his shoulder to cry on and his words of comfort to encourage me.
We’ve been married for over 15 years now. We have jokes that make sense to only the two of us. We have stories that we’ve stretched, mangled and twisted into some of the funniest memories of our lives! We both know the secrets to really getting the other to laugh and to unwind.
I love this passage from the Psalms –
Then our mouth was filled with laughter,
and our tongue with shouts of joy;
then they said among the nations,
“The Lord has done great things for them.”
When we can laugh together, my husband and me, it’s a great reminder of what God has done in our lives. Just the simple fact that we are still together – and better together – is a great thing that the Lord has done for us!
The next time you are sorting through your socks for a matched pair, take time to thank God for your husband and think about the ways that you both are better together!
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