It was December of 1997, when my then boyfriend, now husband, Eric, would soon propose to me. I totally freaked out as we were having those conversations. I knew in my heart that I didn’t know how to be a godly wife. Yes, I studied the Scriptures and saw which paths to take in marriage and which ones to avoid, but I wasn’t a domestic diva. In fact, I could barely boil water! Stick me in an office to run a company and you would see me shine, but in a kitchen, well, not so much! 🙂
And that’s when he told me he wasn’t marrying me because I was a great housekeeper and cook. He knew in time I would learn all of those things. But being that I was about to embark on a lifelong journey of loving my husband, teaching and training future godly children, and managing my home, I certainly felt ill-equipped for the path that was ahead of me.
A few weeks later we got engaged, and then on March 14, 1998, I received my MRS degree when I became Mrs. Eric Engle.
A couple of months passed and one of Eric’s family members asked if I was going to go back to college to complete my degree since I had only one semester left to finish.
My response: Nope. College can’t prepare me for my role as a wife and future mother.
I could see the disappointment on her face. But I knew something she didn’t. As a 28 year old, I was already successful in business, and it’s the reason why I went to college in the first place. I didn’t need a piece of paper to validate who I was, and I didn’t need to invest several months out of my life to just say I completed my degree. After all, what I would be required to learn during that last semester of college couldn’t equip me for my chosen professions- that of being a wife and mom.
So, in a sense, I started attending a new college; one that would prepare me for a thriving marriage and family life. This college wasn’t a traditional one by any means, but the lessons I learned came straight out of the Scriptures.
For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. Hebrews 4:12
Then a year later I became pregnant with our first born. When my little tyke was just a few months old, a friend of mine asked if I’d go back to work when he was in highschool.
My response: Nope. I don’t care if an employer offers me 100k a year with a corner office, I won’t go back to work unless my husband can’t provide for us. I want to be that older woman ministering to the younger women like the Bible commands in Titus.
The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things—that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. Titus 2:3-5
Well, many years have since passed and my oldest is now a Sophomore in high school! And now the Lord is bringing to fruiton what He has placed in my heart years ago….
Christian Wife University– a place where wives can be equipped for their most important earthly relationship. (If you’re a single woman who desires to be married, follow along too, because you’re like a wife-in-training!)
Next week I’ll be launching a study in Biblical Wifehood 101. You won’t want to miss how to lay a proper, biblical foundation for your role as a wife (or future wife). You can get more information about it here.
Follow along and help spread the word about this new ministry!