Our creative God designed marriage to reflect His deep and enduring love for the Church. God made an unbreakable promise to remain faithful to His Bride (you and me). Despite our imperfections, He continually pours out kindness and mercy on us.
Can you see, in His unconditional love, a neon sign pointing to a marriage that endures for better or worse?
Imagine the neon sign the world read when I chose to leave my first husband after only 3 years. I took back my promise to love, honor and cherish ‘til death do us part and as a result the words on my life read,
“Jennifer, God’s beautiful bride, does not faithfully love, honor and cherish. Maybe God doesn’t either.”
Of course, I never intended to tarnish God’s reputation. I was focused on protecting myself from an unhealthy marriage. I evaluated the scene and determined things would likely never change.
My choice revealed my lack of faith in God.
Who Wants You to Fail?
I got married planning to stay married. I was confident in my ability to love him faithfully. And at least 90% of the people at our wedding saw a marriage that would surely make it.
So who wanted us to get divorced?
Five or six years into my second marriage, I realized the “we do not wrestle against flesh and blood” verse applied to us. In the natural it appeared that I was dealing with incompatibility, personality problems, and more. But in reality, I was a pawn in the same supernatural war Satan launched against God when he invited Eve to eat the apple.
God’s archenemy knew that one victory in the garden would have a domino effect in future generations.
My parents’ divorce influenced my choice to end my first marriage. I can look back a few more generations and identify spoken word curses, adultery, and masonic vows were unconfessed and unredeemed.
Can you see the domino effect of sin in your family line? How is it affecting your marriage today?
Refuse to Lose
Jesus refused to lose me.
With selfless love, Jesus looked beyond what was wrong with me and said “I do and I will always love, honor, and cherish Jennifer White.” My imperfections and destructive choices have not changed Jesus’ decision to remain my Bridegroom. We are one.
My oneness with Jesus and with my husband is relentlessly opposed. So is yours.
Bearing the name of God makes us a target of the one who promotes division. The one who kills, steals, and destroys ruthlessly chips away at our resolve “to love no matter” what with subtle ideas that defend our “I deserve better” feelings and offer immediate relief.
Refusing to lose the war against our own marriage requires the wisdom and armor God generously offers to anyone who asks.
Prayerfully Plan to Win
We need God’s wisdom to recognize those subtle, self-serving ideas flaming darts of destruction. And we need a shield of faith to defeat them.
Above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. Eph. 6:16.
Imagine yourself on a tennis court with tennis balls flying at you constantly. Every 3rd or 4th ball is on fire. But not to worry, you are a professional tennis player with a fireproof racket. And you have diligently trained for this match.
Can you see the flaming darts of destruction and your shield of faith in that scenario?
We simply need to ask God for great faith.
With listening, prayer, and Bible study, we receive the faith God is offering.
His wisdom enables us to identify the marriage destroying ideas as they enter our minds. When we respond with the Word, we are actually lifting up our shields of faith. That is how Jesus handled the tempting ideas Satan presented to him in the desert (Matthew 4:1-11).
Because God tells us to honor our husbands, Satan consistently tempts us to disrespect them.
Invite God to magnify your faith so your marriage shows the world a great reflection of His steadfast love.