Patience. My most vivid memory of patience is when I told a friend that I had prayed for patience as a mother. When I went on to tell her that my children were being even more difficult than before and that I didn’t understand why God wasn’t granting me patience, she smiled. I didn’t know what to think. It was then she whispered, “You prayed for patience. The only way to get it is to be tested. Next time, don’t pray for patience, you’ll gain it naturally overtime.” I have never prayed for patience again.
In the King James Version, patience is actually referred to as “suffering long (or longsuffering)”. Personally, I prefer to use the word longsuffering versus patience, but often people aren’t aware of it’s meaning.
Noah Webster defines longsuffering as, “Bearing injuries or provocation for a long time; patient; not easily provoked.”
True love requires patience.
In 1 Corinthians 13, we’re given a list of the attributes of true love and the first on the list is patience.
1 Corinthians 13:1 – “Charity suffereth long…”
The people that are closest to us will test us the most. They will require more of us than others and it is through our relationships with them that our patience is both tested and grown. Who is closer to us as wives than our husbands?
Our husbands will test our patience (and honestly we will test theirs too). They will also help the growth of our patience. We don’t need to ask God for more patience, because our patience will increase as we continue to follow God’s directions for wives and marriage.
How can having patience affect our marriage?
- One of the biggest ways that patience can affect our marriages is that it will promote peace.
When we are faced with a difficulty (or disagreement) in our marriage, patience will allow us to talk it through and process it over time instead of saying things we don’t mean in the heat of the moment and wishing we could take them back.
By exercising patience in the midst of difficulty, peace will reign as we strive to lovingly work through the issue at hand.
- Patience in our marriage will also give our husbands the freedom to make mistakes (just like we do), without us getting upset or flying off the handle.
Remember this Proverb?
Proverbs 21:9 – “It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.”
Lovingly offering patience to our husbands when they make mistakes is also a wonderful way to offer them grace. When we give our husbands loving patience, we’re giving them the first attribute of true love according to God’s word.
What better way to reveal our true love for them than by following the directions of the author of love Himself?