Renovations and remodeling are in full swing in our new/old home.
My husband, and the guidance of the Holy Spirit, are the architects of our new design. Trust me when I say that there have been several times when my husband has needed divine inspiration.
We have a long front room off the foyer that can easily be divided into two spaces, thus having an office for him and an office/sitting room for the kids and me.
The wall had been framed for a while and our desks set up in the separate areas. My husband and I spend a lot of time talking to each other when he has a “no service call day”. I get him all to myself! We speak about the Word of God and different things that are revealed to us during our morning devotionals.
One particular morning, my husband looked at me through those wall studs and told me that he’d decided not to completely close himself off from me. He reconfigured the frame to accommodate an opening between the two spaces (we will be installing a sliding barn door to my side so that he can have privacy when he needs to make business calls).
We love the open space of the physical wall, but more so the marital communication.
During our Bible study time, we both look to sharpen each other. I may learn something from a Scripture that my husband may have never thought of, and vice-versa.
“The heart of the prudent acquires knowledge, and the ear of the wise seeks knowledge.” Proverbs 18:15
I seek godly counsel from my husband because I respect his role as head, under God, of our home. My man seeks to lead his family in the ways of the Lord and I’m more than glad to yield to that.
The Bible has a lot to say about godly wisdom and counsel. Any reading of the book of Proverbs quickly reveals that. It takes a willingness to submit to the Holy Spirit’s wanting to pursue us and help us grow.
Many times He’ll use our husbands to lead us in that direction toward wisdom. I ask that you look at the following Scripture in the light of your husband speaking wisdom to you as his bride. Ephesians 5:25-27 beautifully depicts a husband’s loving care of his wife,
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself to her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.” (NKJV)
- Listen to counsel and receive instruction, that you may be wise in your latter days. Proverbs 19:20
- A wise man will hear and increase learning, and a man of understanding will attain wise counsel. Prov. 1:5
- My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, nor detest His correction; for whom the Lord loves He corrects, just as a father the son in whom he delights. Prov. 3:11-12
- Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. Colossians 3:16-17
- But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. James 3:17
I’d like to add that the Holy Spirit bears witness with your spirit. If there is anything that you question about your husband’s counsel, don’t just dismiss it. Be honest enough to tell him that you may not see things the way he does but that you’ll pray about it and ask God to reveal things to you also. We, as wives, are responsible for our personal relationship with God.
James 1:5 (NKJV) If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.
Walk together in your marriage with peace and understanding; knowing the will of God is to unite you and bind you closer. Seek holiness and truth.