My husband and I are in pursuit of God’s call on our lives. They are things that bring us together even as we serve in different capacities. It gives us both an opportunity for submission and understanding.
It was the first time that our callings clashed.
Two events. One date on the calendar.
I’d already made the decision by default, but more importantly by honor and preference.
I would attend an event with my husband.
The choice being automatic didn’t mean that I instantly liked it!
I pouted and mumbled and complained.
This set the tone between us, and in walks strife; that bitter enemy of marriage.
Thankfully we were on our way to church. It was the perfect opportunity to set our hearts right.
Instead of allowing bitterness to fester, my husband did a most marvelous thing and allowed himself to be led by the Holy Spirit.
In the same way you married men should live considerately with [your wives], with an intelligent recognition [of the marriage relation], honoring the woman as [physically] the weaker, but [realizing that you] are joint heirs of the grace (God’s unmerited favor) of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off. [Otherwise you cannot pray effectively.]
1 Peter 3:7 (Amplified)
Right as the music started for worship I was tenderly tugged toward my husband.
His arms slipped around me.
He pulled me close.
I was able to melt into him.
As I wrapped my arms around him, I bowed my head in prayer.
I heard his words; his prayer and crying out to God for restoration, forgiveness, and for strife to leave!
I became a recipient of my husband’s understanding.
There are things that I learned while and after going through this as a wife:
- When I remember my first love and my role in marriage, God honors that.
- When I’m fighting to have my way, my Father isn’t too quick to hand it over to me.
- When I need His attention, He is always ready to give that.
- When I yield to His leading, He gently guides the way.
- When I need forgiveness from my husband, I just need to ask for it.
- When I’m feeling misunderstood, I wait for a proper time to ask to be heard.
- a small tip on that: more times than not, our perception and expectations are way different from our husbands!
- When I need peace. Seek peace.
There may be issues that take more than one evening to work out, but I urge you to seek peace; pursue it.
If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.
Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled.
I pray that you and your beloved will be able to take the time to understand each other and to pray through it. Don’t let bitterness and strife knock down the front door of your marriage. Peace and reconciliation is a desirable thing. Read and re-read Scripture that encourage these areas and ask God to renew your spirit.
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